Beliefs are your main barriers! We are what we think. All that we are, arises with our thoughts. With our thoughts we make our world. (Buddha)
Your belief system has evolved from birth. Significant people in your life have told you things about yourself. Some of these things have been positive and some have been negative.
Complete this quick audit as a starting point for identifying some of your limiting beliefs.
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My life is exciting and very enjoyable |
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Most days I am “up” and full of enthusiasm |
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I love my work |
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My laughter index is high |
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I persist until I find a way to get what I want |
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I feel grateful and blessed for al the good in my life |
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I curb my negative impulses and control my bad habits |
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I am surrounded by loving relationships and caring friends |
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I have at least one good friend at work |
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People find my passion infectious |
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I have passionate hobbies or special interests |
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My work is aligned to my strengths and allows me to do what I do best every day |
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Time often flies by because I am so caught up in what I am doing |
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I look forward to continuing the key trends of my life over the next 5 years |
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How did you go? What is going on for you internally on those low scoring questions? What are the key contributors to these feelings?
To explore your beliefs system further ask yourself:-
Who have been the most influential people in your life? What did they tell you? What age were you when they told you? Why do you still believe it? What beliefs will you need to be able to achieve your goals? What beliefs are currently missing? How can we create the new beliefs?
For example fear is a belief. We fear beginnings; we fear endings. We fear changing; we fear staying stuck. We fear success; we fear failure. We fear living; we fear dying.
Fear seems so real yet it is like darkness compared to light. Light is real, it can be examined, its speed measured and it can be broken up into its constituent parts. It is real.
Darkness on the other hand does not really exist! It is simply the way things appear when light is absent. So fear, like darkness is merely an indicator that something is missing. It is not in itself the issue.
What fears do you harbour and what proactive empowering beliefs can you switch on?
You may be surprised and encouraged to learn that while inability to deal with fear may look and feel like a psychological problem, in most cases it isn't. It is often, primarily an educational one.
At the bottom of every one of your fears is the belief that you can't handle whatever life may bring.
If you knew you could handle anything that came your way what would you possibly have to fear? The answer is nothing!
You need to develop trust in yourself and to reach the point where you will be able to say, "Whatever happens to me, given any situation, I can handle it!" By saying this you are affirming the outcome and not the problem.
All behavior originates in a belief. If you believe that other people will always take advantage of you, then you will behave in a suspicious way to others. This will flow through every element of your life, relationships, family and working life.
Replacing Beliefs
First you must be aware which beliefs serve you well and which do not.
Creating doubt will destroys beliefs. Questions interrupt our patterns of certainty. If you question anything enough, you will begin to doubt it. Begin to really question those beliefs you suspect are disempowering you.
Creating New Beliefs
Define clearly your new belief. Create a vivid picture of the best possible consequence of having and living this belief and what it will give you.
To help create the picture affirmations can be useful. Here are some samples
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My fantastic recall for all I read and hear makes me an even more effective leader.
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Every speaking engagement is an opportunity for me to show great passion for my subject. I entertain and inform the audience every time I speak.
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I show great poise and calm in all pressure situations.
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My children love themselves best when I give them sincere encouragement and respect.
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I love playing golf as I consistently card sub 90 scores.
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I am an honest negotiator who has the respect of his peers.
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I actively seek our opportunities to make others feel good about themselves.
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I know I will achieve my goals – I recover quickly from temporary setbacks.
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I am unassuming in my actions toward helping others.
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I bravely take calculated risks as a means to improve.
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I am always aware of other people’s feelings.
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I enjoy dealing with my customers as I quickly determine and fill their needs.
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We win because we focus on providing great service.
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I am very proud of the enthusiastic and productive team I lead.
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I am constantly using my influence to create an environment where staff can excel.
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I feel great excitement at achieving our profit of $….
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It feels great to be well organised.
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I love maintaining good business housekeeping practices.
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I love networking for every one I meet is a potential buyer.
The solutions BD personal coaching program can really assist you to fast track personal success and contentment through a combination of education and implementation.
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